So they will act like they don’t like things more, will throw comments about your choices, BUT ultimately they want you to be in control and are more comfortable with it as well. This is even stronger for when you’re approaching a random woman at the bookstore, or coffee shop or even the subway.
What does take an eternity for guys to figure out is that Western and Korean women think, act, and do different!
This is more than just about the women themselves, but also the society and culture in which they’ve grown up in.
Korean women think that the man is responsible for escalating the date into something more. Now I won’t get into the ‘whys’ or the “it shouldn’t be that way” debates.
Therefor they won’t necessarily give you any sign, clue, hint, or impression that they want you to escalate the interaction. How about those moments when you don’t get the stares? I will get into how they need to be considered when you’re going out with a Korean woman.
If they find you not wanting to hold their hand, caress their hair, or even kiss them, they will assume that you are not interested, and will move on. For them, being looked at negatively by an adjoshi (which means ‘uncle’ in Korean) who could be her own father with whom she’s probably living with, is painful.
Another key note is that Korean women love knowing that they have control of the date. You see, being with a foreigner is still very new and different for her, regardless of whether or not you’re a gyopo or not.This is quite different from Western women who enjoy being on the saddle more and feeling like they are taking control of the interaction. You want to calibrate how much hand-holding, touching, and especially kissing when you’re with her.This is a guest post by Dan Bloom With Asia Dating Even more so, building a life is even more work, especially a dating life.Unfortunately, foreigners who come here make big mistakes when it comes to meeting and dating Korean women.In fact, I’ve taken the time to write down what I’ve found to be the biggest mistakes that foreign men make, during years of living in Korea and professionally helping men date Asian women.#5 Thinking that Korean women are easy Before I came to Korea, I was very excited because I imagined that Korea was a lot like South East Asia: Just show up and women will be lining up to go on dates with you! Korea, I soon found out once I arrived here, is on the opposite side of the dating spectrum. Life’s tough for us (I’m darker skinned as well) but if you really want to find and date the ideal Korean woman for you, it’s definitely possible and we’ll make it happen!