I am a strong, independent woman, and have no problem doing things for myself or on my own. This tends to create a problem in a relationship with someone who has this complex.
Experts say that the reason people have to be the saviors/martyrs:” it’s a form of control.
People who have this savior complex usually come from a home where a parent constantly told them they are worthless, good for nothing, and will never amount to anything.
So, they spend the rest of their lives trying to prove their worthiness by “helping” and “fixing” things for people, to the point of it being a nuisance to the other person in the relationship.
These people are often frustrated in their relationships and exhausted from the amount of effort they are making, trying to fill a void.
They often sacrifice his/her own needs, to help others, then end up feeling bitter and resentful, ignored and unappreciated.
They rarely obtain the love, recognition and approval they are seeking, because nobody can possibly give enough, or let them do enough to meet their deepest needs.
This type of person has an extreme fear of rejection!
They choose partners who need them, so they are less likely to leave them.
Are you dating a person who always needs to be needed?
Are they constantly asking what they can do for you, or fix for you?